7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R Covey

  • If there is little or no trust there is no foundation for long lasting success
  • If you don’t pay the price day in and day out, you will never achieve true mastery in a subject or develop an educated mind.
  • If there isn’t a deep integrity integrity and fundamental character strength, the challenges of life will cause true motives to surface
  • The influences we have in our life helps shape our frame of reference
  • We are not conditioned to see the world as it is, but as we are, or as we are conditioned to see it
  • The only way to achieve quantum improvement is to work on the root
  • Paradigms are powerful because it creates the lens in which we see the world
  • To relate effectively with anyone we need to listen and listening requires emotional strength
  • Listening requires patience, opened and a desire to understand
  • Private victories precede public victories
  • True transformation of our thinking and behaviour happens from the inside out. That is the paradigm shift that needs to occur.
  • An action won’t be a habit in your life unless there is a desire
  • True independence of character empowers us to act rather than being acted upon.
  • If you adopt a pattern of live that focuses on the putting in the work day in and day out without the expectation of a result, you soon will produce exponential results
  • The Production and production capability is the very essence of effectiveness
  • When you open your gate of change from within you, your growth will be evolutionary but in the long term it will be revolutionary
  • Between the environment amongst us and our response is the freedom to choose
  • Reactive people are influenced by their physical, social environments and feelings
  • Proactive people control their environment and are driven by internal values
  • Its not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us, that hurts us
  • If you don’t can act or you will be acted on.
  • Reactive people focus of the weakness and concerns of others
  • Proactive people work on the things that they can control
  • The thought that we have that the problem is out there, is the problem.
  • Proactive people change from the inside out. They focus on the change that needs to happen inside inorder to influence the outside world
  • Happiness is a proactive choice.
  • The proactive approach to a mistake is to accept it instantly, correct and learn from it.
  • The power to make and keep commitments to ourselves is the essence of developing the basic habits of effectiveness.
  • Always begin a task with the end in mind. It means to have a clarity of your understanding of the destination
  • Real success is not in having things, but in having mastery over one self.
  • When your sense of personal worth comes from the net with, you will become vulnerable to any that will affect that net worth
  • Regardless of who or what the circumstances maybe, principles are bigger than people.
  • We are free to choose our actions, based on our knowledge of correct principles, however, we are not free from choosing the consequences of these actions.
  • The personal power that comes from a principle centred living is the power of self-awareness, knowledgeable, proactive individual, unrestricted by attitudes, behaviours and actions of others.
  • The more we know of correct principles, the greater is our personal freedom to act wisely.
  • As a principle centred person you will ignore the emotions in a situation and look at it in a more balanced and holistic manner.
  • Being a principle centred person helps you to see things differently, which enables you to think differently.
  • Writing a mission statement for your life forces you to think about your priorities and align your habits with your beliefs
  • Always begin any task you do with the end in mind. Imagine, feel and experience the end result. It creates an internal comfort zone.
  • Begin with the end in mind. Have a mission statement for your life
  • Integrity is fundamentally the value we place on ourselves. Its the ability to make and keep commitments to ourselves, to walk our talk.
  • Effective people are opportunity minded people. They feed opportunities and starve problems.
  • Have weekly goals and schedule your priorities weekly
  • Frustration is function of our expectation. Expectations are a reflection of the social mirror rather than our of values and priorities
  • Practice stewardship delegation. It focuses on the results rather than the methods
  • Stewardship delegation means to delegate a job in trust to someone to get it done
  • Trust is the highest form of human motivation. When we develop people and train them, their competency rises to the level of trust. Higher the trust, higher the competency
  • Effective delegation is the best indicator of effective management
  • Private victory precedes public victory. Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundations of good relationships
  • If our words and actions come from a superficial human relations techniques rather than from our own inner core others will see the duplicity.
  • The place to begin building any relationship is inside ourselves, our own character.
  • Really seeking to understand another person is probably the most important emotional deposit you can make.
  • When expectations are not clearly shared, people begin to get emotionally involved and simple misunderstandings become compounded, turning into personality clashes and communication breakdowns
  • When we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure, safe and validated in their essential worth, identity and integrity.
  • You cant change the fruit without changing the root
  • Win/Win is focused on the benefit of everyone involved. Its the higher way.
  • Depending on the situation, a different paradigm will have to be utilised
  • To win as a team, we need to have a win/win human interaction paradigm in place.
  • The win/win paradigm always secures the long term relationship in an interdependent reality
  • The principle of win/win is fundamental in all our interactions and it takes strong character and relationships to be able to implement.
  • Character is the foundation of the win/win philosophy and Integrity is the cornerstone of it.
  • The ability to express ones of own feelings and convictions balanced with consideration for the thoughts and feelings of others is called Emotional Maturity.
  • To achieve that balance between courage and consideration is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win/win
  • We need to have a mentality of abundance and not compare ourselves with anyone to have the right character inorder to create a win/win
  • Without trust the best we can do is compromise. Without trust we lack the credibility for open, mutual learning, communication and real creativity
  • The stronger you are in terms of character, the more committed you really are to win/win
  • Practicing win/win methodology, in any organization or life matters will always be profitable as both the parties involved gaining alot from the association of the other.
  • In win/win performance agreements, consequences become the natural o rlogcal result of performance rather than a reward or punishment handed out by the person in charge.
  • A win/win agreement can’t stand alone as an isolated technique, rather its a product of the strong character, relationship and trust that has been established.
  • The spirit of win/win cannot survive in an environment of competition and contests
  • Win/win out the responsibility on the individual for accomplishing specified results within clear guidelines and available resources. It makes people accountable to perform and evaluate the results and proud consequences as a natural result of performance.
  • Win/win is not a personality technique. Its a total paradigm of human interaction. It comes from character of integrity, maturity and abundance mentality. It grows out of high trust relationships. It is embodied in agreement that effectively clarify the expectations and accomplishments.
  • Empathic listening is the key to unlock the POV of the other person. It is to listen to more than just words, but to listen for feeling, you listen with you heart
  • Empathic listening is not easy. It requires us to be vulnerable You have to be vulnerable in order to influence.
  • By seeking first to understand we can turn a transactional conversation into a transformational conversation
  • Skills are vital to developing any habit. Developing skills for empathic listening, will not be effective unless it comes from a place of a sincere desire to understand.
  • You significantly improve the credibility of your ideas when you present your ideas, clearly, specifically, visually and contextually
  • The more deeply you understand the other person, the more you will appreciate them and the more reverent you will feel about them.
  • The time you invest to deeply understand the people you love brings tremendous dividends in open communication
  • Having synergistic conversation requires trust. It multiplies the expected output by multi-folds
  • People dont see the world the way it is. They see the world as they are.
  • Valuing the differences is the essence of synergy
  • You have the ability to be synergistic within yourself even in the midst of a very adversarial environment. You can sidestep the negative energy and look for the good in others and utilise the good to improve your point of view and enlarge your perspective.
  • Its vital for us to find a balance in our physical, emotional, spiritual and mental aspects of our life inorder to be effective and for our performance
  • If you win the private battles inside you which are inwardly conflicting, you will win public victories where you tend to think cooperatively and be genuinely happy for other people’s victories
  • A life of integrity is the fundamental source of personal worth
  • The more we can see people in their unseen potential, the more we can use our imagination rather than our memory to invest into their emotional bank account

Now, over to you..

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